If Your Career Stalled Because of Your Husband, Call It Like It Is

Of all the people you'd expect could nail down this whole work-life balance thing, Harvard Business School MBAs would easily make the short list—smart, ambitious, well-educated people who, if nothing else, have the money to fix the problem of gender inequity when it comes to having kids. But no. » 11/23/14 2:00pm Yesterday 2:00pm

Does Dry Shampoo Cause Hair Loss or What?

There are "big questions," like why are we here, and then there are Big Questions, like does dry shampoo make your hair fall out? The former is certainly important, but not if your hair has to be flat and lifeless while pondering it. After seeing this ghastly dry shampoo claim online recently, I decided to investigate. » 11/17/14 3:20pm 11/17/14 3:20pm

The Future of Just-For-Fun Sex Sounds Like No Fun at All

Professor Carl Djerassi, Austrian-American chemist and inventor of the Pill, recently made an interesting prediction in the Telegraph: that, by 2050, most babies in the West will be born via IVF, thereby making all sex recreational. Yes! Let's go get our free-spirited fuck on because oh wait yeah no this is terrible. » 11/15/14 2:00pm 11/15/14 2:00pm

Is 'Mommy' Becoming a Dirty Word?

It is hardly shocking anymore that some women have mixed feelings about motherhood. Blogs, books, TV shows, and social media have given us access to an outpouring of the general meh many women feel about breeding. The problem is, it's changed virtually nothing in terms of the expectations on women to be perfect moms. » 11/11/14 5:30pm 11/11/14 5:30pm

Newsflash: You Can't Steal Someone Else's Partner

One day hanging out on the grassy knoll freshman year at college, a free-spirited woman on roller skates approached my boyfriend, who was sitting right beside me. She handed him a note and then floated away mysteriously, her sundress rippling in the breeze behind her. It read: Will you go out with me? Yes or No. I… » 11/08/14 2:47pm 11/08/14 2:47pm

We Are Hardwired to Screw Ourselves Over Until the Day We Die

Think of yourself on your worst behavior: did you construct an elaborate narrative to justify it? Probably. But that narrative is bullshit. The real thing holding us back from growth and genuine happiness is not life in all its absurd, hard, meaningless glory. It's our own series of bullshit loopholes that keep us… » 11/06/14 12:30pm 11/06/14 12:30pm

All That Matters in the Beginning of a Relationship Is Looks

When you think about what matters in a good relationship, you probably think about shared values, or inside jokes, or fun road trips. But picture-driven dating apps like Tinder may be confirming a suspicion many of us do our best to push aside: that all that really matters, at least at first, is looks. » 11/03/14 4:10pm 11/03/14 4:10pm

Hey Dude, You're Not Stuck in the Friendzone Cuz You Dress Shitty

Today in bad advice: The ludicrous notion that $575 aviators and a $3,500 bomber jacket will make an otherwise meh dude suddenly fuckable to a woman who has decided she's not interested in him that way. Really Esquire, don't encourage them. » 11/02/14 6:00pm 11/02/14 6:00pm

Pregnancy Doesn't Make Women Dumb — Just Their Bosses

Maybe you were more forgetful when you were pregnant, maybe you weren't. Maybe you spent the first trimester huddled over a wastebasket barfing, or maybe your gestation made Pinterest look sloppy. Doesn't matter, because it's the perception that you're a quivering mess that leads to discrimination, not reality. » 11/01/14 2:15pm 11/01/14 2:15pm

Woman Sick of 'Wearing the Pants' in Relationship Gets Schooled

Feminism is not just about lifting the oppressive veil of gender expectations off of women — it's also about loosening the necktie of expectation from men. Sometimes, it's women who need to be schooled in this matter, and who better to drop the glisteningly hard slab of Real than Heather Havrilesky at Ask Polly. » 10/26/14 2:15pm 10/26/14 2:15pm

Quitting Grooming Won't Get Women Anywhere

News to no one: It costs more to be a woman. We're charged more for goods and services, are more likely to take time away from work to care for kids or aging parents, and live an average of 5 years longer. We also have to do more stuff to maintain femininity. But would cutting back on grooming change anything? » 10/25/14 2:15pm 10/25/14 2:15pm