Why Getting Painfully Rejected in Love Is Awesome and Good For You 

Date, fall in love, or otherwise put yourself out there in this crazy world for long enough, and you will eventually develop some kind of narrative about your romantic behavior: You’re a serial monogamist. A manic pixie dream girl. A ungettable man-eater. An expert on the emotionally unavailable. But what happens when… » 4/12/15 4:15pm 4/12/15 4:15pm

Cleaning Nail Clippings, Cutting the Cake: Your 'Soft Sexism' Stories

Last week, in honor of Ellen Pao’s lost discrimination case that hinged too heavily on instances of notoriously tough-to-prove soft sexism, we asked you to tell us about the soft sexism in your lives—those moments big and small that dot the landscape of your working and personal existence that feel barbed, yet… » 4/07/15 4:20pm 4/07/15 4:20pm

Going Off Hormonal Birth Control Can Be a Real Bitch—or Not

It can’t be overstated that reproductive control is essential to reproductive freedom for women. But decades of such freedom have also given us the luxury of a next-level set of worries: What is birth control really doing to my body, and what will happen if I stop taking it? The answer is: mostly good things; maybe… » 4/06/15 4:50pm 4/06/15 4:50pm

When You Love-Hate the Place You’re From

Sure, every place is fucked up in some regard. Every place has a story of awfulness in its past or present. But some places are notoriously backwards, and if you’re from one of them, you might carry the irreconcilable tension of loving and loathing it for life. Even when you move away. Especially when you move away. » 4/05/15 12:45pm 4/05/15 12:45pm

Here's What It Looks Like When You Chronicle Every Detail of an Affair

An illicit love affair almost always goes un-chronicled. It’s in the inherent nature of the thing: an affair is over, after all, as soon as you leave too many traces. And so a love affair’s importance and impact often live entirely in memory. If we document it, the affair lives in a few pictures, letters—maybe today,… » 4/03/15 5:00pm 4/03/15 5:00pm

Tell Us About All the Maddening Soft Sexism in Your Life

If you are a working woman who has read anything about the Ellen Pao discrimination case, your reaction has likely been one of unease and disappointment. Turns out that soft sexism—something very real, likely something you’ve experienced personally—is a slippery thing to prove in a court of law. But that doesn’t mean… » 4/02/15 2:30pm 4/02/15 2:30pm

If Your Children Were a Happy Accident, Why Not Just Tell Them? 

There is a video going around the Internet of a man finding out he is about to become a father. But instead of expressing pure joy or even the shock of fear, his response is bummed, surprised, and despondent, all mixed together. Some commenters feel putting this out there is a bad idea. I disagree. » 3/31/15 12:10pm 3/31/15 12:10pm

Is It Selfish For a Woman to Declare That She's Done with Blowjobs?

A woman has taken a very public stand online against performing oral sex on the penis, deeming the organ admirably practical and sleek in design, but justnot for her. This bold declaration comes on the heels of years of being denied oral sex by men who were perfectly content to get theirs, while refusing to give in… » 3/28/15 4:00pm 3/28/15 4:00pm

When Was the Last Time You Really Thought About Getting Old? 

If there is one thing I can tell you of usefulness in your life as a woman on this planet: You need to get yourself some older lady friends. You need to sit with them, and you need to let them tell you about the world. And you need to take it all in, and you need to be very, very grateful for it. » 3/26/15 12:00pm 3/26/15 12:00pm

Lego Helps Little Girls Dream Big—About Face Shapes and Great Haircuts

So much for the punk rock Lego movie message of not following the instructions: In a recent edition of the Lego Club mag, the company ran a spread featuring beauty tips for five year olds, establishing for girls who've not yet learned to read that the only good face shape is oval. Et tu, Brute? » 3/20/15 3:20pm 3/20/15 3:20pm

New Trend: Men Wanting Babies, Women Wanting Freedom

It was bound to happen: One day, women would awake from the fog of cultural myth-making to realize that having kids is in fact a lot of work, work that was bound to fall disproportionately on them—maybe even too much work, all said, if you want to get other stuff done or have a low-key existence. And they would decide… » 3/19/15 2:50pm 3/19/15 2:50pm

Here is How Your Smartphone Is Truly Aging You (It's Not "Tech Neck")

Another day, another mention of how staring at your smartphone is slowly withering you into an unrecognizable pile of sallow, sagging flesh. But I can assure you that "tech neck" is not the only smartphone-induced culprit of rapid aging. It's not just the phone that's going to send you to an early grave, but what's in… » 3/15/15 3:00pm 3/15/15 3:00pm